I think most bloggers would agree that the role of comments in our community is an extremely important one. We want to know that we are being heard. We want to connect. We want to feel validated after spending (sometimes way too long) on a particular blog post. In this new world of social media, which I’m especially sensitive to since I’m teaching a modern media class this semester, we want to see that our picture has been “liked” and know that our opinion matters.
I love comments. I do. Especially on reviews, which take so much more time to write than throwing together a Waiting on Wednesday or Stacking the Shelves post. A good review takes work. You have to find a way to be interesting and entertaining while explaining your thoughts on somebody else’s work. The book blogging community has exploded and people can go anywhere to read a review. That’s what makes it so amazing when somebody reads yours AND takes the time to comment about it. I will never take that for granted.
I feel so lucky to have made some wonderful blogger friends. There are a few people who take the time to comment on almost, if not all, of the blog posts I put up. These people are awesome and I love them. Because these people are awesome, I make a point to return the favor, like any good friend would. No matter how busy I get, I always try to make my way over to the blogs of those who’ve taken the time to comment on mine. Not out of obligation, but because I want to know what my friends are up to. What did they just finish reading? What are they thinking about today? That’s the community I want to be a part of, but it isn’t always the one that exists.
First, there are few things I hate more than disingenuous comments. Comments that bloggers leave for the sole purpose of getting you to come to their blog and follow. Case in point, this was left on a review of a book that I didn’t like very much. At all. Where I went in to great detail the issues I had with it:
I would really appreciate the followers!
Ok, so she obviously didn’t read the review, which isn’t a horrible crime (although, seriously, read the review if you’re going to comment–don’t be a dick), but I’ve seen this comment from said blogger on NO LIE at least 50 blogs. You probably know exactly who I’m talking about because she probably left this exact comment on your blog. I’m sure she is a lovely person, but it’s the most disingenuous thing ever.
For example, I left a comment on a blog where the author is a teacher. She had posted pictures of her room and was talking about gearing up for the first day of school. I left a comment about how cute her decorations were and how about I was about to embark on my student teaching semester, blah, blah, blah. I went back a couple of days later to see if that had started a conversation and she had commented on the one other comment about her decorations, but hadn’t responded to my comment. Seriously, WTF is that?! It gave me flashbacks to 6th grade when I wasn’t “cool enough” for the mean girls to talk to.
If I comment on any comments of a post, I comment on them all (the exception to this is WoW posts–because really what is there to say? I’m glad you’re excited to read this, too. Thanks for saying I’ve picked a great book). It’s just rude not to. That is why I tend not to comment on meme posts: it can be tedious, especially when the comments are super bland, but I want my little space to be a friendly one. Because I’m a friendly girl. I can’t even imagine wanting to hurt another blogger’s feelings–and I’m sure it’s not even about wanting to hurt feelings, but again, it’s just common courtesy.